We NEED our girlfriends!

“Life’s best connections happen in person. God created us to live in community, and while digital communities can enrich our lives, they can’t replace the joy of eye contact, laughter and tears, hugging and the comfort, love and affection of a live human friend.

In Hebrews 10:24-25, God reminds us to intentionally gather together: “And let us consider how we may spur one another on toward love and good deeds, not giving up meeting together, as some are in the habit of doing, but encouraging one another — and all the more as you see the Day approaching.”

In an age when we’re more “connected” than ever through technology, many people feel lonely because they’re tending to the friends who “like” them online before the people who love them in real life…”


Here’s my thought on this. God has placed you, several of you in my life for a true purpose. There are many of you that I can’t talk to about certain situation, however, there may be the one or two of you that will get it, that can understand what I am going through. These are the women in our circle that we are blessed to “pull” from when needed.  Each of you, my friends, have been picked for me from God in my opinion. Maybe I am good for you, or you are good for me. Whatever that may be, we NEED our girlfriends.

In the past 2 years I have found myself secluding myself socially for many reasons. The biggest is money, or well, maybe the social aspect that everything revolves around food, and wine.  Food I can’t eat, and wine I can’t afford at a restaurant. Hmm. It’s like the chicken and the egg dilemma. They go hand and hand, and unfortunately, what I gave up was my much needed time with my girlfriends. The laughter. The love. The support of those that understand you. That feel good girlfriend time when you share the stupidity of senseless conversations of “what to wear”, undergarments, jewelry, or you know, the conversations that you just can’t have at home with your husband and kids, even your coworkers. They just don’t get it.

I am sure if you think back years ago you might think that you had a group of friends that you were closer with and saw more often, spent more quality time.  Why do you think this is?  I believe it’s because of the change in the times and social media!  Yes, just one more thing to blame on Social Media! (LOL) We picked up the phone and just dropped by when we were out and about. It was simple.

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Beth Moore, Friendship, Woman of God

“A women’s joy is not the same without girlfriends to share it with.  (Ain’t that the truth)  But ya’ll, this is where Beth communicated a truth that WE ALL need to apply and really absorb-We have TONS of contacts, but FEW connections!!!!! OUCH!  So, let’s get this one down now.  Our 1200 Facebook friends or twitter followers are NOT our friends/connections.  It’s the people we make time for-the people we have face to face interaction with.  Those are the ones we must have in our lives as women for joy!  Joy is meant to be shared.  We, as women, are having a hard time connecting the dots between joy and our girlfriend deficit.  We are to make our joy complete-share it!”

We need to fight for one another…and we each have our one girl that will do just that!

Look at how many movies there are that are about friends, a group and each one is so different, but that one is always the PERFECT friend in a specific time of need. This is wht a true Circle of Girlfriends is all about.


So when is the last time you were with your friends, to call on them to ask their advice, to call and say how much you appreciate them.

In this time where we are feeling more and more alone in this motherhood, it’s time to reach out.  Our spouse can be our best friend, but they just can’t feel like we do.  Men are from Mars and Women are Venus, right? Isn’t that what we’ve been told?  So how can they possibly help us at all times?

If you feel like you don’t have this friend, then reach out. Maybe it’s time to reach out to social media and look for that group of women that have the common denominator as what you are seeking. I am sure that you will be able to fulfill that role! We need to find our TRIBE!


Finding my TRIBE isn’t about ALL of my friends. My TRIBE is finding the group of ladies that can relate to where I am, that have been there already, and that are a little behind me that I can help in the future as well. If we are all alike, how BORING!  The opinions and expressions and attitudes are what make us WELL ROUNDED and complete our circle.


If you haven’t reached out to your circle recently, then do so! Have them over! YES! T0 your house! These are the people you actually want to cross over the WELCOME mat!

I challenge you to examine your circle. Maybe it’s  time for a change and add some new, or maybe it’s just time to reconnect! Turn your acquaintance into a BFF. All it takes is for someone to take that first step!

Get back your laughter. Get back your need to feel important and liked, and get back with your girlfriends!

Comment below on your BFF’s and how each one can be good for you!

Missin’ MY BFF’s and GF’s! Acquaintances and close friends…Cheers to friendship…


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